“Am I Bitter?”

I got a call from my boyfriend Tom last night after he left his therapy session. With not so much as a hello, he posed the question after I answered the phone with, “Do you think I’m bitter?”

Then, he explained that after sharing his opinion of one of his closest friends break up and subsequent affair with a woman nearly half his age to his therapist — that his therapist thought he might be “bitter.”

Tom’s opinion was that when his friend suggested that this beautiful young woman would never again find the intimacy and connection with anyone else that she experienced with Tom’s friend — Tom’s reply was, “of course she will John, we all think that, and then they all move on — we’re all replaceable.”

Tom’s therapist found this to be a bit bitter and encouraged Tom to dig deeper into his negativity! Luckily Tom’s therapist doesn’t have to date Tom. I say this is the case only 50% of the time — when Tom discusses his desire to NOT get married again constantly as if trying to drill his point home, ruminates over ghosts of girlfriends past, and plays devils advocate in situations related to self-improvement, relationships and other related topics — I would say that Tom is in fact, a bit bitter? Yes indeedy, I would. Now mind you, the confusion comes in because the other 50% of the time, Tom is fun, up for anything, light heart-ed, very social and overall has a good time and is a good sport about most things — including my friend’s six-year-old niece vomiting all over the interior of my car.

Fortunately for Tom, he’s dating someone who doesn’t want to get married (alimony was negotiated until death do us part), doesn’t mention past loves and is generally agreeable and crazy about this man! Oh, she’s also 14 years his junior — which I’m assuming doesn’t stink (suck) when you’re 60!

Needless to say, he was probably a bit bitter that he even called to pose the question, when I gave it to him straight up!